The Measure of a Man
A man's level of success depends upon the standard by which he is measured. I am very blessed to be married to an exceedingly successful man. We enjoy a comfortable life even though we are not wealthy. We have a nice home but we don't live in a mansion. We have plenty to wear and eat, yet we don't buy designer clothing or eat at fancy restaurants. Most importantly of all, we both love and serve the Lord, and have a thriving, happy marriage. After more than three decades together, we prefer to be with one another more than anything else.
For many men, their self-worth is dependent upon financial or personal success. However, this is contrary to God’s measure of successful manhood. According to Scripture, a successful man will display several hallmark traits. Whether you are single and desiring marriage, engaged and preparing for marriage, or married and aspiring to be more successful in your marital relationship, strive for authentic, Biblical success.
First and foremost, a Biblically successful man is godly. He loves and serves the Lord wholeheartedly. He stands firm on Truth and rejects sinfulness, relying completely on God for guidance. He speaks the truth with love and humility, never with arrogance or self-righteousness. He does not criticize the lost or misguided, but instead brings them before the Savior in prayer.
A successful man honors and cherishes his wife. He treats her with kindness, gentleness, equality, and understanding. He prefers her happiness and well-being above his own, and seeks to please her before anyone else, except the Lord Himself. He remains sexually pure, refusing to indulge in adulterous acts or thoughts.
A successful man is a man of maturity, subduing childish behaviors. He is slow to anger, and he extends grace, mercy, and forgiveness to all. He renounces coarse talk and foul language. He rejoices in the blessings of others rather than becoming covetous or resentful. He desires to share the unconditional love of Christ rather than pass judgment. He spurs his brothers on toward righteous living. He is humble, forthright, and walks in integrity. He demonstrates godly character at all times and in all circumstances.
A successful man instructs his children according to God’s Word. He loves them, nurtures them, and guides them. He models godliness and self-control. He disciplines his offspring justly and does not antagonize. He defends them, inspires them, and prays for them. He is affectionate and encouraging, and is sure to provide plenty of opportunities for having fun!
A successful man provides for his family and avoids debt. He is disciplined in the handling of money, and is willing to give generously of his resources, including his time and talents. He plans for the future, ensuring that his household is safe from financial ruin.
A successful man is a protector, defending the weak and denouncing sin. He is courageous and faces difficulties head-on, and refuses to retreat from troubles. He boldly fights the enemy in prayer, and skillfully wields the Sword of the Spirit against the Evil One. He voluntarily lays down his own life ~ and his own desires ~ for the sake of others. He shields his family from the subtle attacks of a godless culture, and protects their emotional and spiritual well-being from damaging influences.
A successful man is a spiritual facilitator, concerned with his family’s spiritual health and growth. He leads the family in developing Christ-likeness by demonstrating moral behaviors, and carefully cultivating his own character. He exhibits godly habits such as prayer and study of Scripture, and leads by example rather than coercion. He prays faithfully, serves unselfishly, and loves unconditionally.
True success has nothing to do with money, career, or position. A real man cannot be measured by his income, his possessions, his physical prowess, his education, or his awards. He is measured by his character, according to God’s standard. Happy is the wife who is married to a successful man!
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“Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.”
~ Albert Einstein